The end of a marriage can be a relief to some, but others an extremely stressful time in their lives. Sometimes marriages just do not succeed for a multitude reasons. Even the spouse who wants the divorce may experience a wide range of painful emotions. It’s a mourning process, grief, anger, confusion, fear, anxiety and shame. If you have children, the stress level within the family unit is twofold.

People may seek the aid of a life coach or mediator to help decide whether they should try and make the marriage work. Other people want help in making the transition to a single life. Divorce rate statistics are between 40-50%; not very good odds. Usually there are multiple reasons why partners seek divorce. The following reasons are some of the most common factors:

Lack of commitment, some marry too young or the wrong person.

Communication issues and a tendency to argue much of the time.

Infidelity; an isolated incident or married to a serial cheater.

Physical and mental abuse, or chemical dependency.

Financial problems, especially after the children are born.

Your partner may have unrealistic expectations about the ideal marriage. Others are just unprepared for the challenges of married life and refuse to compromise. Some become defensive and can’t take responsibility for their actions. If you have no respect for your partner, your relationship is doomed.

You need an objective and rational perspective working through this process. People learn more about themselves and view a different perspective in order for growth and personal development. Most do not possess the skills to work through the complications of a divorce, thereby carrying this baggage into future relationships.

Divorce may exacerbate certain mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression or personality disorders. Many see divorce as a personal failure and blame themselves. Working through these feelings and obtaining a different perspective will help you resolve your feeling of failure.

Children’s well-being is of upmost importance. Don’t overlook the emotional state of your children who may blame themselves and be confused or feel abandoned.

When the family unit as a whole is on the same page and can express themselves freely, they may be able to process their emotions in a constructive manner. These issues can be resolved during the recovery process. An individual who is coached by a professional will learn new coping skills which will aid in starting a new fulfilled life.